The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love

The Science of Happily Ever After What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love In this playful and informative exploration of the science behind compatibility Dr Ty Tashiro explores how and why we fall in love Dr Tashiro an acclaimed relationship psychologist translates reams

  • Title: The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love
  • Author: Ty Tashiro
  • ISBN: 9780373892907
  • Page: 381
  • Format: Hardcover
  • In this playful and informative exploration of the science behind compatibility, Dr Ty Tashiro explores how and why we fall in love Dr Tashiro, an acclaimed relationship psychologist, translates reams of scientific studies and research data into the first book to revolutionize the way we search for love His own research has pinpointed why our decision making abilitiesIn this playful and informative exploration of the science behind compatibility, Dr Ty Tashiro explores how and why we fall in love Dr Tashiro, an acclaimed relationship psychologist, translates reams of scientific studies and research data into the first book to revolutionize the way we search for love His own research has pinpointed why our decision making abilities seem to fail when it comes to love and how to rewire our brains to make smarter choices.Illustrated using entertaining stories based on real life situations and backed by scientific findings from fields such as demography, sociology, medical science and psychology, Dr Tashiro provides an accessible framework to help singles find their happily ever afters.

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  • Ty Tashiro

    TY TASHIRO is an author and relationship expert In his forthcoming book, AWKWARD The Science of Why We re Socially Awkward and Why That s Awesome, he explains why some of the same characteristics that make people feel socially awkward can be the same traits that propel them toward extraordinary achievements He received his Ph.D in psychology from the University of Minnesota and has been an award winning professor at the University of Maryland and University of Colorado He lives in New York City.

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  • The Science of Happily Ever After is a frustrating book, flitting between being a helpful snapshot of current information about long-term relationships--a purely descriptive one-- and a much more ambitious work that attempts to delve into that (arguably) unavoidably irrational facet of people's lives and impose order through collecting insights from the empirical literature of psychology. In the former, it succeeds. In the latter, it fails, exhibiting two bad tendencies of social science books w [...]


  • The biggest issue I have with this book as a fellow counseling psychologist, is that the author throws around the 50-60% divorce rate without providing the nuance it deserves. The rates are about half that high for people with higher levels of education and people who wait until after 25 to get married. Painting the marriage landscape as that bleak seemed disingenuous.


  • I have mixed feelings about this one. First, reading this book on kindle is just a pain. It's not only difficult from a reading perspective, but for a self-help genre book, it's criminal that the setup is making it harder for the reader to take away messages and organize their thoughts. It's one of those books that relies a lot on lists and headings and diagrams and this and that, things that work really well in a digestible chunk on a page. On my kindle set to the font size that I find comforta [...]


  • I really liked how the book is presented with practical information and easy to follow advice. I felt the stories might have been a bit distracting (as page fillers per se) though I did enjoy them nonethelessTESThere are 4 types of loveLiking declines at 3%/yr (Fairness and Loyalty)Lust declines at 8%/yr (Biological impulses)It's better to invest disproportionately in Liking versus Lust3 out of 10 couples live happily ever afterDivorce rate is 50% and then there are another 15% that are in unhap [...]


  • This book is entertainingly written and informative.The reason it is just "OK" to me that it is almost too entertaining and well-written. Author Ty Tashiro is moving into "glib" territory.Plus, although I recognize that he is going to fictionalize his anecdotes, at least one of the anecdotes he uses moves into complete unreality. At one point, he talks about a teen who loses her virginity on Christmas Eve and then spends the next week *at school* worrying about whether or not she is pregnant. No [...]


  • I enjoyed the book in that it gave the reader another perspective on the art of finding a good mate. it gave the reader a few things to consider when choosing a mate, that may not have been considered when choosing a partner for a long term relationship. Easy to read, but it read like a thesis paper with the evident structure of that type of writing. The few interjections of real life episodes was entertaining and I would have liked to follow out those relationships a little farther to provide t [...]


  • I won this book in a Giveaway and spent my time while reading thinking of single friends who would enjoy it. It takes a scientific look at what humans look for in a mate and why those traits may not lead to "happily ever after". I thought it was interesting and informative, and I could think back to my younger days and wish I had known then what I learned from Dr. Tashiro in this book. His recommendations make sense and are illustrated with examples from real-life people, which keeps it all qui [...]


  • This book started out well, but mostly it just made me depressed. Humans are complicated and messy and terrible and wonderful. Despite the author's warning that singles cannot wish for too many things in a partner, "The Science of Happily Ever After" makes it seem like you actually do need to check off a bunch of boxes before considering a long-term relationship with someone. Neurotic? Let them go. Thrill-seeking? Nope. Doesn't have the greatest parents? Drop them.My real question iswhat happens [...]


  • In The Science of Happily Ever After, Dr. Ty Tashiro ties together real-life situations with extensive research examples to offer a look at finding enduring love. Tashiro avoids the trap of treating the material as just dry research by providing good information about what it takes to successful select a partner not just for life but also for a happy life. The Science of Happily Ever After offers helpful tips about what to look for in a mate and how to avoid common pitfalls that hamper this sear [...]


  • The science of happily ever after is about the process of partner selection based on scientific research which is very eye-opening and insightful In a nutshell,this book tells you what really matters when it comes to choosing a partner which is to focus on personality traits rather than looks or wealth . You have got only three wishes for love which means that you have to wish for three traits in a partner ,more than three traits and you will narrow down your options and exclude lots of potentia [...]


  • The books presents several examples of how to choose and/or live with ones current spouse with fewer conflicts. The book was easy to read and written in a format for all readers to enjoy. However, at times some of the points in the book seems redundant. The author also shares many studies and personal stories regarding how relationships function. The personal stories were by far the best part of the book. Many of the studies presented in the book while some what interesting did not garb my atten [...]


  • I really wish I could give this 2.5 stars as that's really what I feel like it deserves. There's plenty of useful information here, just not as much in the way of practical application as I'd have hoped for. It's definitely written with for those who are currently single, so the applications suggested are much less useful for those already in a long term relationship.


  • In "The Science of Happily Ever After," psychologist Ty Tashiro explores what leads to lasting love relationships. I picked up this book after reading Tashiro's more recent work, "Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially Awkward and Why That's Awesome." I had particularly enjoyed the chapter on love relationships in "Awkward," so I had high hopes for "The Science of Happily Ever After." However, I ended up being a little disappointed in this earlier work. Don't get me wrong--there are many val [...]


  • I enjoyed it overall, so the rating is more because if I wasn’t already motivated to gather this information this book wouldn’t have been the best way to get it. I did have a few helpful self-insights, and I appreciated the tips on looking for signs more objectively in relationships.


  • I got this book thinking since it was written by a Dr it would be more factual than option based. The author did not seem open minded what so ever and personally driven in a large portion of the book. I got this book with the intent of gaining knowledge, not being repulsed with this book.



  • First off, I just want to say that this was a very well researched book and I believe it has a lot of good insight into why often many people divorce or stay married unhappily. That being said, I completely understand why a lot of people who would read this book would not like it. It is a very frank look, an honest look at how we look at ourselves, and many people out there are not relationship material and siting this out can have a backlash from people who have troubles with love frequently, o [...]


  • I came across this book after seeing multiple posts on facebook of some Atlantic article on the key ingredient to making a successful relationship/marriage endure. And the fact that I'm relatively recently single also piqued my interest. The article's premise was "kindness" being the key ingredient which sounds pretty obvious but the details of how to express this and why it allows relationships to endure both fascinated and humbled me because it's one of those "easier said than done" concepts a [...]


  • I was the recipient of this book through a First Reads giveaway. Thank you! This is a book I probably never would have selected on my own. Why? I like stories. I like characters. I like escape. This book reads like a textbook or thesis and, as a Law student, I get plenty of that in my day-to-day life and I don't want to carry that into my recreational reading time. (That being said, my favourite parts of this book were the stories Tashiro incorporated of couples he knew or worked with.) Neverth [...]


  • Few months ago, I've read an article in The Atlantic that left me with an impression that Ty Tashiro's book was a book about the science of partner selection and maintaining loving relationship for decades.Instead of that, I ended up reading sciency self-help book for, I'd say, single people in an age group 18-20 that haven't read anything that covers the subject yet. It's sloppy in places:· 1,843 calories just to stay alive in early 1800s, for someone living a very sedentary lifestyle, really? [...]


  • An interesting compilation of research in the relationship field (a social science if ever there was one).The first two parts are, as other reviewers have said, more rigorous. But also less helpful. Essentially summarized by saying, "statistically, there aren't as many fish in the sea as you think."The prescriptive end makes a few leaps, but suggests some common sense approaches that an ideal mate is determined by three things: 1) personality traits (he uses the big five and suggests a standard [...]


  • I found this book to be good, I really enjoyed that there were real life examples through each of the chapters, and that it was straightforward and realistic. I think it's important to give out the cold hard truth and I hearted some new things that I hadn't heard or seen through my schooling and it was just refreshing to hear it without the sugar coated truth that most people give. I enjoyed how the author explained from a psychological perspective of how difficult it is to find the perfect pers [...]


  • First Reads Giveaway Book.------------------------------------The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love is a scientifically-based book that describes the traits partners should have in long-term relationships. With a doctorate in psychology, the author, Ty Tashiro, has theoretical knowledge about relationships, packing this book with graphs and statistics.During a small study of less than one hundred newlyweds in a University of Tennessee study, the re [...]


  • Наша любовная жизнь, как следует из научно-популярной книги Тая Таширо, похожа на неожиданную встречу с джинном. У нас есть право на три желания, но мы эти желания по ерунду, в данном случае на малосущественные для счастья -- и исследования это доказывают -- внешние данные и с [...]


  • The audience is obviously intended for people looking for love. I read this as a married woman of 15 years, so on the surface it may not have been a book that would be of much benefit to me. However, on the contrary, I found this book fascinating. It makes so much sense to choose your partner like you would choose an investment property (this is not a quote by the way). Because after all your happiness and life is at stake. The book cited research and experiments in the field of finding lasting [...]


  • I won this book in a FirstReads giveaway and found it really interesting. It takes a more scientific approach to finding love and explains why selecting a mate as our ancestors did (to ensure strong genes are passed on) no longer works in modern society. As our life expectancy has increased the importance of actually being able to get along with our partner has become much more important and many of the traits that ensured survival in the past (beauty, risk taking, novelty seeking, etc) make for [...]


  • Ultimately, kind of depressing. By the time you've wished for 4-5 traits in a mate, you've statistically made it impossible to meet that person. Basically, settle for someone boring if you want something stable. Anyone not boring will cheat. I especially seem to be having a hard time finding someone, because I'm not looking for a baby daddy. It seems like dudes only want to settle down to pump some babies out. If dudes also don't want babies, they will not commit to anything beyond dinner and ca [...]


  • I give it a three to four star rating. I found it to be a worthwhile read. I like that the author discusses how the way we looked for partners previously (think 1800s versus now) should no longer be relevant, but it seems that we are still approaching it in the same way. The discussion on attachment is interesting, and can be related to any relationship scenario. Actually even if you aren't looking to find "your" person (although this might be your reasoning for reading the book), I found it to [...]


  • This is a pop science book that details social, historical, and biological studies about love and relationships including how they've changed and statistically what makes them mostly likely to succeed. This is not a self-help book other than it makes single people realize that the ideal mate doesn't exist in real life, and that they must think carefully about what traits in a mate are most important to them. Other psychologist have called these relationship "deal breakers". As long as you don't [...]


  • I had higher expectations for the content of this book. It took 173 pages before the topic rolled around to the information I was expecting from the title/description. The first half of the book covers what I think would be pretty common knowledge for anyone who's read about relationships (which I have done) and is therefore, a bit of a drudge.On the plus side, the book had a pleasant little formula. The author did a nice encapsulation of each "lesson" with a personal and adorable story.I couldn [...]


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